There are very few among us who have not, from time to time and for various reasons, raised their voice. At times, raising our voice produces positive results and sometimes, the opposite.
Those of us with children have, undoubtedly, raised their voice - either to get attention or in acts of desperation or frustration. Just this afternoon, I did exactly that. Did it make me feel better? Yes and no. For a brief moment, the frustration dissipated but then I immediately felt bad about it and realized I probably could have handled the situation better.
In training our new puppy, I admit that I have raised my voice more often than I would have liked. But, when I see her pouncing on our other dog wanting to play but the play is getting rough and the other dog is hurt, I will raise my voice, not that the puppy will listen or care. Most of the time, I don't feel badly about raising my voice to the puppy but imagine how I feel those times when she then comes over to me and licks my face. That's not playing fair.
In the past, when I've had to deal with difficult situations concerning my daughter with Special Needs (such as fighting for her rights), I have raised my voice and felt good about it because sometimes, in situations like these, that's the only way to get attention when nothing else works. Those of you who have similar families will more than likely understand exactly how that is.
Should raising your voice be your first line of defense? No, probably not. But, when you've tried the easy way, the nice way, the understanding way and it all falls flat, sometimes a raised voice is the only way to get attention. Once you have their attention, it can be business as usual. A raised voice can sometimes be the firmness you need to make a difference which can be a good thing in the long run. It's all in the reason and whether that reason is enough to lead to a positive result.